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Travelling as Feminist, a struggle at home and abroad
“Where do I even start”- that was one of the slogans a girl was holding for the Woman’s Day march in Malta. During this march, we protested in Valletta, the capital of Malta, against the ban of abortions in the country (the last European country that prohibits abortion no matter what), against gender-based violence, against femicides and cultural norms promoting discrimination. In 2020 we, women, face so many issues that we don’t even know where to start and how to talk about them. Travelling as a feminist can be very challenging – and I am not even referring to the safety precautions that women need to take everywhere in the world anyway. I want to focus more on the internal battles and struggles we, feminist travellers, have to deal with on a daily basis.
Being a passionate traveller deconstructs to one thing: your desire to explore the world and to learn about it as much as possible and as much “authentic” as you can. You want to meet people and hear their stories, to be enthralled by landscapes and cultures you have never seen before. Being a female passionate traveller though arises some additional complications. You die for a coffee at this local shop but there are only men inside. You feel like sleeping at a mixed hostel but you have heard stories about female travellers being assaulted in some. You would love to have sex with this cute traveller but what if (s)he is dangerous? You need to take a taxi but you have to remember not only to book it from an app (if available) but also to take photos of the car plates (IF something like that exists) before getting in. You want to eat by yourself but random men send you free shots or, even worse, start talking to you or sneakily follow you back to your accommodation. You want to be left alone and many men do not seem to understand and respect this. Pffff, just some of the reasons why we need feminism, right?
Every woman deals with the same problems, why travelling as feminist is different?
Good question! I am sure we all related to all the before-mentioned so far, right? Let’s add the last piece to the equation. Being a female feminist traveller is even trickier. Why? For countless reasons but let’s see some basic ones: First of all, we have realised that there is systemic oppression against us which has been constant for centuries, hence, deep-rooted. Feminism has already won many battles globally but the world is not an equal place yet (and as researches indicate.. it won’t be any time soon). As feminists, we can not “un-see” casual sexism and spiteful “jokes” anymore. We recognize this pressure every day in every aspect of life and your travels -look at the examples above!- and we have to select our battles thoroughly. We know the roots of the phenomenon (it’s called patriarchy, let’s say it louder for the people at the back) and we are tired of people saying “Oh, so you hate men!” (no, we hate patriarchy). We can not stay put when we (or other women) grapple with misogynist comments and behaviours but we can’t do much either- safety first!
Travelling as feminists can be challenging because we sometimes feel angry and disappointed but, since we are “just visitors” here, we want (and have to) respect local customs and traditions. But, on the other hand, being harassed in the streets shouldn’t be excused as “cultural difference or norm”, right? The inner feminist screams “THIS IS NOT FAIR” and the traveller (or the good girl…) “it is how it is you can’t force the world to change; stay safe and move on”! If this is not the definition of an internal battle I don’t know what it is!
Planning your travels as a feminist
Let’s think of this through an other prism. Personally, I don’t exclude countries from my bucket list based on media or people’s stereotypes, I prefer to form my own opinions. As a result, I have visited countries and places deemed to be “unsafe” for women. When I start to plan my next trip there are so many things to consider: flights/ tickets/ things to do & see/ what to eat/ local customs/ language barriers/ itinerary/ accommodation/ vaccination & visa if required etc. These are the obvious ones that every traveller and tourist has to take into account anyway.
And then… the reality hits! I dive into the specific gender-inequality problems and challenges this country faces; even if I am all for a new country and I don’t exclude countries as I mentioned, I get discouraged by high femicides, rapes and domestic violence rates, child marriage, education, politics, FGM (Female Genitalia Mutilation please learn more about it), human trafficking etc. We know that no country is perfect or has totally got rid of sexism but some countries seem to be worse than others. However, biases don’t help; who would expect that Denmark, the number one at Gender Equality Index for 2019, has fewer women MPs than Senegal and Rwanda, despite the Nordic state having a GDP per capita 56 times higher than Senegal?
What should we do as feminist travellers then?
I don’t have a clear or a widely-accepted answer here. I know that many feminists avoid at all costs countries that are notorious for women’s rights violations. On the other hand, I know that there are feminists who do not dig into things like these when they travel, they just pick up a country and go. I totally get both of these reactions. Frankly, in every case, whatever you choose, being a feminist traveller can be exhausting especially if you just need to unwind by taking a holiday and you neither want to deal with sexism nor to think of more patriarchal obstacles. The practical ideas below are just my own way to make a tiny difference when it comes to feminist issues I encounter with while travelling since I choose to visit any country no matter what.
Realistically and ethically speaking, we can neither change other cultures from our – sometimes privileged- position (since we don’t share the same experiences) nor apply our perspectives to others but at least we can offer what women might need from us: encourangement, money, help, support or a sympathetic ear. What I do is to try to help at least one local organisation/ NGO/ community for one of the top gender-based problems of the country I am about to visit.
For example, in a country that women struggle to be financially independent, I would look for women associations and buy their products or spend my money on women-owned businesses. In a country fighting against domestic violence, I would volunteer at a women shelter. In a country where women are getting paid less (well, pretty much everywhere!) I would rather stay in a local woman’s hotel/ property. In a country that women are underrepresented I would document and share some of their stories. In a country where young female artists are earning less (by the way this is more common than you think!), I would attend one of their workshops/exhibitions and buy their designs. In a world where the men hold the majority of the wealth/ land (and, as result, our travel money are more likely to end up to them anyway) why not to support women directly?
It’s crucial to remember that even in the most anti-feminist countries not all locals think/ feel the same way about gender equality. We need to travel with an open mind and as few prejudgements as possible. I won’t forget an amazing Tanzanian young guy who was super angry about FGM (a common practice in Tanzania but, thankfully, in decline) who told me that this “tradition” is solely practised to reduce women’s sexual pleasure, it’s unacceptable and has to stop! On the contrary, I won’t forget either a European guy who mansplained me that this is “their tradition” and we may need to respect it and leave it as it is… Undoubtedly, the locals are the first to demand these changes (and they need to find their way to address the issue) but we can’t ignore this blood-soaked reality for millions women and girls out there or label it just as “tradition”. Let’s also not forget that FGM is being practised everywhere, even on a smaller scale.
Moving on to something else… how do you deal with the double standards in religious places? As women, we need to compromise (to wear a head kerchief for example or to cover our legs) all the time otherwise we will be denied the entrance. I would be fine with it should the guidelines were the same regardless the gender- for instance if everybody should cover their hair before entering a sacred place. Having different standards though just indicates discrimination against gender under the excuse of “religion”. How come my calves to be “provocative” but my boyfriend’s no?
After many years of accepting these discriminatory rules (in churches, temples, mosques etc) as a traveller I decided to stop visiting religious places when the latter apply different rules according to the visitor’s gender. The icing on the cake (that pushed me to make this decision) was an incident that took place in Thailand back in 2018.
I want to visit a sculpture of Buddha that is almost next to the beach. I wear long pants and a tank top (the tank tops are not acceptable in Thai temples but I didn’t know that sometimes even visiting an open-space sculpture this can cause problems). Getting closer to the sculpture, a local guy starts shouting at me “Cover your shoulders or back off”. Ok, fair enough, sorry I didn’t know! I always have a shawl with me for this occasion anyway. But as he approaches me, I notice that he wears a tank top way smaller than mine (picture him as a well-built man) and I’m like “I’m sorry but you’re standing here all-day wearing a tank top as well”. “But I’m a man” he yells! I’m breathing slowly now. “And? What’s the difference between my shoulders and yours besides you being brawnier? ”. He looks confused and he nods “God said so”. I insist “To you”? “Well, actually my teacher ordered this. Men and women are different anyway ”. Tired of this, wearing my shawl, I mumble “I see… My shoulders are sinful and yours.. innocent”. If he had given me a reasonable explanation, a story behind this rule I might have thought differently (even if I disagree with double standards anyway). But I feel tired of all these and I drift aimlessly thinking that from now on I will be visiting no religious places enforcing double standards. It’s easy; I won’t be disrespectful trying to push my beliefs / my appearance (their religion their rules after all and any change should start from their people anyway); I will just avoid those places as much as possible- especially if they ask for an entrance fee. I might miss something important for the country’s identity, yes. But my inner peace is more important at the present time. By the way, later on I was told by Thai friends that tank tops are not acceptable for men either so I am unsure why this guy felt so entitled to wear a tank top while he was trying to make me cover up. Oh yes, because “he is a man” I guess!
Travelling as a feminist is not easy since sexism is an inextricable piece of our journey… well, to be fair, sexism and double standards negatively affect every woman’s life even when we just stay at home so… This post was supposed to be shorter but it has already reached almost 2400 words and I haven’t even managed to write everything I was planning to. I think it’s time for you to communicate your opinions! If you identify yourself as feminist*, do you choose which country to visit based on gender-equality rates? Do you exclude countries because of that? How do you tackle double-standards while on the road (towards you or others) ? Can’t wait to read your thoughts!
*Being a feminist is a life core belief against discrimination and double standards. “A Feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women & men”, Gloria Steimen, American Journalist & Activist